As in most things in life, it all depends on how you view the situation. I was so worried about this iron transfusion stuff. Guess what? It didn't even have to happen. I got a call from the hospital the day I did my blood work to set everything up. My blood levels are almost back to normal. Worry is of absolutely no use.
Then, I got a call from my doctor moving my reconstruction surgery up. This was a bit of a stressor, because it meant having to rush around and get everything done. I found that all of the technicians I worked with were kind and understanding and put a rush on absolutely everything. Kindness exists.
It was difficult finding someone to drive me home from my surgery in Glendale. It turns out that my mom was the only one who was available. She is 71 and has never driven on a freeway. I was terrified! However, she did a fantastic job. Yes, we drove a little slowly, but she did it without any issues. My mom is an angel.
Every single part of this situation has been a blessing. I got to spend time with my lovely niece. I found that my son and his girlfriend are so loving and will do anything to take care of me, and my mother is capable of great things. As I worked through the events of the past few weeks, I came up with an exercise that helped me move through the difficulties. I'm hoping that this will help you to find peace as you hit those speed bumps that are inevitable in life.
Change Your Perspective
1. Write about the troublesome event, but write about it from the perspective of a close friend.
2. Offer comfort and encouragement.
3. Acknowledge what made the situation so lousy.
4. List the strengths that will help you bounce back.
Try this out. I promise once you've given it a go, you will see that really you are your own best friend and that you should treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion you give to your loved ones.
Stay tuned. I'm going to be writing an extra blog to talk about the reconstructive process.